Love vs. 'being in love'

Justin and I have been married for over five years and I'm so happy to say that I am still very much "in love" with him. Maybe 5 years isn't long enough to wear off the honeymoon glaze, but either way, I found C.S. Lewis's observations on love very spot-on. Love isn't / can't be "merely a feeling" since my feelings change rapidly, flipping through a symphony of emotions in a single day. Praise God marriage doesn't require me to necessarily "feel" a certain way all of the time. Instead, by consistent pursuit of Justin--regardless of how I feel one moment to the next--produces a rich, sustainable love, affection, respect, and romance unparalleled in beauty.

"Love in this second sense - love as distinct from 'being in love' - is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be 'in love' with someone else. 'Being in love' first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it." - Mere Christianity, p. 109, by C.S. Lewis